In today’s episode, Annette Maria shares her divine wisdom about why women experience burnout, and how you can avoid it.
We discuss the energy that drives our need to do, and accomplish, and be productive, and why that is so devastating especially for women.
It’s no secret that stepmoms feel an urgency to DO IT ALL. If you’re an over-doer, this episode is for you!
Annette is a Feminine Liberation Guide, Intuitive Facilitator of Energy Healing, Channel for Multi-dimensional Beings, Published Author & Bhakti Yogi. Her work supports women to uncover their soul’s unique purpose, reclaim their inner goddess & manifest their soul’s deepest desires. She wants to see the planet a place that supports everyone living out their soul’s purpose, reminded of their limitless potential & able to fully feel their humanness.
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Transcript
ANNETTE:
Speaker:In that time, I realized how disconnected from my body I was, even though I was
ANNETTE:
Speaker:practicing yoga, even though I was deeply in tune with myself and meditating and all those
ANNETTE:
Speaker:things, I was just all the head I was all in the space of doing I'm going to manifest, do
ANNETTE:
Speaker:all these crazy things and like X, Y and Z.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:But I wasn't about the feeling.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:There is no embodiment of what I desire.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:There is no presence.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:There was just all kind of fleeting and floating with anxiety and urgency.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Where would you take your life if you knew you could not fail?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I get it as a step mom, mom and entrepreneur.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Sometimes it can feel like what everyone else expects of you versus what you dream
BRITTANY:
Speaker:about for yourself are on opposite ends of the spectrum.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:As a woman, you're taught from a very young age what society thinks you are worth based
BRITTANY:
Speaker:on how you look, how you behave, and how much money you are allowed to bring in.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:But I'm here to show you that you can be the woman who has it all and not just on the
BRITTANY:
Speaker:outside. I'm Bernie Lynch, and you are the queen of your castle.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Hello, hello, hello, welcome to another episode of The
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Queen of Your Castle podcast, I'm your host, Brittany Lynch.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:We've got a really fun episode today.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:We've got a really fun guest.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:You guys are going to you gals, you're going to love her.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Today on the show, we have Annette, Maria.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And listen to this.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Hold on to your hats. And that is a feminine liberation guide.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Can I get a name in and that is a feminine liberation guide, intuitive facilitator of
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Energy, Healing Channel four multidimensional beings, published author and
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Buckteeth Yogi, her work supports women to uncover their souls unique purpose, reclaim
BRITTANY:
Speaker:their inner goddess hair flip and manifest their souls deepest desires.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:She wants to see the planet, a place that supports everyone living out their souls
BRITTANY:
Speaker:purpose, reminded of their limitless potential and able to fully feel their
BRITTANY:
Speaker:humanness. I'm obsessed with this.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:So much of the verbiage in this introduction, we I'm going to speak for
BRITTANY:
Speaker:everyone and say that we are super excited to have you on the show and spread your
BRITTANY:
Speaker:spread your love and light with us.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:So, so amazing.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And thanks for being here, Brittany.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Thank you so much.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And I'm so, so happy to be here as well and to to guide in this way.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Thank you.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Hmm. Yes.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Amazing. Let's let's simplify this.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Pretend I'm a fourth grader.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I have no idea what a feminine Libération guide means or an intuitive facilitator of
BRITTANY:
Speaker:energy healing any of this amazing stuff.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I'm a fourth grader. Tell me what it is exactly that you do in it.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Absolutely so.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So when you look at it right, there's two energies within us.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:All does matter what there we are.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:There's the feminine energy in the masculine energy.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And within that, it's like if you had a box, that's the masculine, that's the container,
ANNETTE:
Speaker:and then the feminine is what flows inside of the box.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So it's kind of that space spaciousness in that space and that box, I should say.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And what I do is I guide women back to that spaciousness because so many women, men and
ANNETTE:
Speaker:that of our genders are so many individuals on this planet are operating from this overly
ANNETTE:
Speaker:masculine energy, which means this over doing this constant go, go, go.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And there's no repreve, there's no space, there's no creativity infused.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And then that's when we see burn out a lack of inspiration, the anxiety and all of those
ANNETTE:
Speaker:things start to pop up from that energetic foundation being kind of astray, crumbling.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So that is one element of me and my work.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And then when I say to the facilitator of healing, I have the ability to to heal and
ANNETTE:
Speaker:transform individuals.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:But I'm not doing it.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I'm facilitating it.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I am just the channel, the conduit.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I'm not the one healing.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. I'm the one that is open up to the energy from the divine to support that in the
ANNETTE:
Speaker:other individual and to empower them that they are the ones feeling themselves.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Their body has that intelligence.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Amazing. How in the name of everything holy did you manage, did you find
BRITTANY:
Speaker:your way to this specific pocket of gift giving?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So first of all, I just love your energy.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:It's amazing. I just wanted to put that little cherry in here.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And so what brought me to this was my own journey of being disconnected from my
ANNETTE:
Speaker:feminine. And being in that state of overly burning out.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I was I'm such a doer.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I've so much fire but fire just as fast as it can be lit.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:It could just fall right out or it could just kind of crumble and burn us up.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. And that's what my fire did to me.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Back in twenty seventeen, I was in my first and last corporate job ever.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I was in fashion before and all the all those types of different things.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And I was praying basically, and I was just like, let me teach yoga full time.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Like I'm done with this.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I'm done. Let me step into what I'm supposed to do on this earth.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And then two weeks later, I got fired.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Just she's done.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:She's out. I'm like, all right, God, that was like a really aggressive but thank you
ANNETTE:
Speaker:for that push. And that push led me to have one of the worst and best years of my life,
ANNETTE:
Speaker:depending on when you ask me.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:That was right. And in that time I realized how disconnected from my body I was, even
ANNETTE:
Speaker:though I was practicing yoga, even though I was deeply in tune with myself and meditating
ANNETTE:
Speaker:and all those things, I was just all in the head.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I was all in the space of doing I'm going to, you know, manifest, do all these crazy things
ANNETTE:
Speaker:and like X, Y and Z.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:But I wasn't about the feeling.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:There was no embodiment of what I desired.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:There was no presence.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:There was just all kind of fleeting and floating with anxiety and urgency.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So that kind of evolved me into what I do now.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Then I stepped into massage therapy and then just seeing all the people I worked with and
ANNETTE:
Speaker:the repetition of that overly masculine energy that they were operating in, I was
ANNETTE:
Speaker:just like, there's more here I don't like.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I don't want to work on your physical body anywhere.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I want to work on the energetics.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I want to work on what is happening in there is that is what's causing us the pain.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:That's what's causing us the disease in our bodies.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So that led me to now infusing my work in this way.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And now I do still work with the body.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:The main way I lead women back is through embodiment.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So that is using the body as a vehicle, as the the tool to have the conversation.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:We don't have so much of that, you know, mental work.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Of course, the mindsets.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And but I really focus on women dropping back into their body and learning and
ANNETTE:
Speaker:listening to that intelligence.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Amazing. Ironically, not ironically, because I don't believe in coincidences.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Inside of my my program, our community, we are or have just
BRITTANY:
Speaker:finished a workshop called Your Busy Story.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And so what we really did was we peeled back kind of the we didn't go in this way of
BRITTANY:
Speaker:looking at the masculine versus feminine energy, but we definitely took a look at the
BRITTANY:
Speaker:doing and what drives the doing.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And this this urgency, like you say, to do, to prove, to achieve, to produce.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I'm curious now that you've transitioned over into more of this energetic and
BRITTANY:
Speaker:embodiment work.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I know for me, you know, this is something that I am actively working on is doing less
BRITTANY:
Speaker:better, um, but it's really resistant.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And I know that most of you know, most of my clients inside of the stepmom's story,
BRITTANY:
Speaker:they're all high achievers, right?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Most are high achievers.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And have this high achiever identity, this like duer identity, and so one of the things
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I said in in your busy story last night in our workshop was we're not here to be human
BRITTANY:
Speaker:doings. We're here to be human beings.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:But I want to ask you.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:What do you notice when it comes to the resistance?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:What's the most common resistance, I guess, that you notice in your clients in inviting
BRITTANY:
Speaker:them back into their bodies?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And it's not important that there can be doing other things that the worth that they
ANNETTE:
Speaker:have is and what they do and not who they are.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. So like the labels that we put on ourself or whatever it may be, it's really
ANNETTE:
Speaker:that lack of importance.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And that's why so many of us have that disconnection, whether how we feed ourselves,
ANNETTE:
Speaker:how we move our bodies, how we relate to our sexuality.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. It's kind of the last thing that we worry about or that we put on our list.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:But what if it was the first thing?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Who would you be if you were enough?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Just to be just to be in your body.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Hmm.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Having a lot of having a lot of feelings come over, be right now, because I feel like this
BRITTANY:
Speaker:conversation isn't hard enough.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:We need to be having this conversation more than we are.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:When I imagine let me back up here, most of you listening probably know that I have a
BRITTANY:
Speaker:little bit of a trauma past, a little bit of a trauma history.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:So getting into the body is kind of a scary thing for people who have gone through
BRITTANY:
Speaker:trauma. And I truly believe everyone on this planet has trauma stored in their body
BRITTANY:
Speaker:somewhere. Can you for anyone who's listening right now, that's maybe a little
BRITTANY:
Speaker:bit interested in reconnecting with herself in her body, but maybe that doesn't feel
BRITTANY:
Speaker:super duper safe.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Could you give us.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Maybe one thing that you would advise is kind of like a dip your toe in and connect in
BRITTANY:
Speaker:a way that doesn't feel super intense and intimidating.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Right. I feel like the energy behind this work is supposed to be warm and nurturing and
BRITTANY:
Speaker:luscious and beautiful.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:But when that resistance is there and that disconnection from the body is so chronic, it
BRITTANY:
Speaker:feels really uncomfortable to get back into the body and to feel things.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:So what's a beginner's guide?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:What's a beginner's entry point to come back into her body?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Yeah, absolutely. And that's a crucial thing that you just mentioned.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And the first thing before I share, like a tangible practice, is finding that safely,
ANNETTE:
Speaker:right? If you're still in the home, the place, the relationship, whatever it is that
ANNETTE:
Speaker:caused you that trauma, that it caused you to feel that amount of unsafety that you
ANNETTE:
Speaker:disassociated and pulled away, it's to remove yourself from that as best as you can
ANNETTE:
Speaker:or however that may look for you and to cultivate that safety for yourself.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:First and foremost, that is the most important thing, because if you don't feel
ANNETTE:
Speaker:safe, how you said then that resistance isn't just met by your body, it's meant by
ANNETTE:
Speaker:your whole nervous system. It's like, no, no, no, no, no, we can't go here yet.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:We still are protecting ourself.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:What do you do when you can't let you can't let your guard down?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Are you insane? You know, so first, the safety is crucial and just relaxing the
ANNETTE:
Speaker:nervous system through.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:There's a beautiful practice of just putting your legs up the wall for ten minutes and not
ANNETTE:
Speaker:just doing that helps reverse that blood flow, helps relax the nervous system, but a
ANNETTE:
Speaker:way that you can do it through embodiment that really allows you to drop into the body
ANNETTE:
Speaker:is just through simply shaking and just putting on just say like a four minute song
ANNETTE:
Speaker:and just shaking around the room, whether it's literally just shaking.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Your hands are shaking.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:The whole body shimmying a little bit.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. Really releasing and making any noises that you need to do as doing that,
ANNETTE:
Speaker:bopping the knees full body shake.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And really when you do that, you want to inhale through the nose and as you exhale,
ANNETTE:
Speaker:ha, really release the jaw and really allow there to be that release and whatever may
ANNETTE:
Speaker:come up throughout that is OK.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:But that is a beautiful way to drop back in and something I want to share because for
ANNETTE:
Speaker:some people they're like, well, what do you mean, why would I shake?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. You know, if we have dogs or pets and we smother them and we love them so much and
ANNETTE:
Speaker:we just give them a big hug and then they walk away and they shake because they're
ANNETTE:
Speaker:like, that was too much.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:What did you do, Mom? And that is them releasing stress.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:That's them releasing the tension.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And then they move on. Right now we're in the bulls and that is a common practice
ANNETTE:
Speaker:amongst animals. Is that active shaking?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So try it on and really include that breath as well, because that lets you stay anchored
ANNETTE:
Speaker:in the body.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I love that. You know what's coming up for me right now?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I have a three year old. His name is Rory.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And I am I was just reflecting was, as you're saying, this on all of the like,
BRITTANY:
Speaker:bouncing and jumping that he does.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And I was like, where is it?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Where do we learn that we're not supposed to, like, move?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Our body is like that, right?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Like where do we learn that it's not OK to flip and flop around and jump up and down?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And is it school age?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Right. Why do we why do we condition ourselves out of what our body wants to do?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Absolutely. And that is I am all about bringing us back to that childlike
ANNETTE:
Speaker:expression. Right, not to have a temper tantrum in the middle of a grocery store,
ANNETTE:
Speaker:because that's not the point of it.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. But to do it in your home, to be able to express yourself as that little kid
ANNETTE:
Speaker:desires because that little kid is still inside of you, that little kid is still
ANNETTE:
Speaker:running the show in some ways, that inner child.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. And to let that inner child be expressed the way it desire to, you know,
ANNETTE:
Speaker:your your son.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. You said you had a son, right.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:You know, he's still doing it.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:But at some point something's going to tell him to not.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And then all those feelings get pushed away and repressed down.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And hopefully he is able to express them.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:But there's just society tells them he shouldn't do this in public.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. They shouldn't do X, Y and Z.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So it's about cultivating that space within your home, within yourself, within your
ANNETTE:
Speaker:family that you can like something me and my partner do.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Well, we want to act like little children is we'll be like we'll say I am whatever age or
ANNETTE:
Speaker:feel like I'm eight right now and we just let yourself like, be that like eight year
ANNETTE:
Speaker:old, three year old.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And then we're like the person witnesses that they laugh out of it.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. And then we're all right.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:We move on.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Oh, I love that.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Yeah. It's not about being stuck.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And that's the thing. We all we get stuck in the emotions and the emotions are just meant
ANNETTE:
Speaker:to. You move through us, there's just waves, right, and kids got it together, they move
ANNETTE:
Speaker:through it and then, all right, like, what are we doing next?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And you're like, you're just freaked out.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:What do you mean, you know?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:So I love that I love that, like, connection with.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:The inner child, you know, I one of I think we in the Senate I'm sorry, I can't talk
BRITTANY:
Speaker:about some skin in the stem.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I'm sorry we had a guest come in and host an inner child, breath work practice for us.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And to this day, the gals who have gone through it said that that inner child
BRITTANY:
Speaker:workshop was kind of the missing piece in in their healing.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Right. And and what a really amazing and super fun.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Place to carve out like in your home with your partner to be like, I am acknowledging
BRITTANY:
Speaker:that this is like coming from inner child stuff, right?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Like my inner child is wounded right now.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I'm going to throw a tantrum.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And we're going to move on from it instead of shaming ourselves and judging ourselves
BRITTANY:
Speaker:like I know I'm not supposed to feel X, Y, Z, right.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Like as an adult, I'm not supposed to feel X, Y, Z.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Stop crying. Don't feel that way.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Don't be jealous. Don't be annoying.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Yeah, it's different.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:So I am obsessed with this idea.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:It's coming in. It's coming home with me.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I love so much.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:It's, it's monumental, you know.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And also to know that all emotions are valid, they're all neutral.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Emotions aren't good or bad.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:We just need them that through our perception, through society's perceptions.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:But anger is just as important as happiness.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:There's no there's no mortality to them.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So it is really, I think, crucial for us.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Again, a big part of my work is to allow people to feel their humanness, especially
ANNETTE:
Speaker:spiritual beings.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:We think we're on this, like, spiritual quest.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. But we're souls having this human experience.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So we were here to have like that's part of why we're here, I think.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And we're here to feel it all.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:We're not here just to disconnect and just fly.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Hi. We're here to feel and to be in it, which is hard for the soul sometimes and the
ANNETTE:
Speaker:ego and all of that. But yeah, that's a big part of the feminine is allowing that
ANNETTE:
Speaker:expression, that creativity, that space.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:To come back,
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Amazing, so after after a client, they had been working with you for a while and had
BRITTANY:
Speaker:reconnected with that spaciousness inside of the box, I'm just making an assumption that
BRITTANY:
Speaker:that would kind of be the time or throughout this process that you would have them guide
BRITTANY:
Speaker:them to connect with, like you said, their souls unique purpose.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:What specifically does that mean?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Yeah, so I believe and I have been shown and told that we are all I feel like our purpose
ANNETTE:
Speaker:is to live out our humanness, our souls.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Reason for being here is to be the human.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:But we're on a mission as well.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And that mission is.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:How we serve others, so oftentimes when we step into careers or whatever jobs it may be,
ANNETTE:
Speaker:it's OK, what do I do?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:What can I do? How can I make money?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:But when we shift into living out our mission or purpose deeper, it's really
ANNETTE:
Speaker:shifting into the we.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:How can I serve?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And I think when people are aligned in their purpose, that is when they feel the most
ANNETTE:
Speaker:fulfilled, that's when they're in their zone.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:A genius is really what that means specifically to what you asked.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And that's where you feel a bit challenged, but you feel like you are in your place, that
ANNETTE:
Speaker:just you can live in this energy.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:You know, you can continue on doing this and you feel fulfilled and happy and uplifted.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And that can alter to write like our purpose.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Our mission isn't finite and that can alter, but it's like our our why behind what we're
ANNETTE:
Speaker:doing, I feel like is the mission.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Like my why behind all that I do is really to support individuals and feeling wildly
ANNETTE:
Speaker:expressed in their humanness and being alive, and that includes different aspects
ANNETTE:
Speaker:and different ways of connected with people.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So it's not, again, not putting it into a box like, oh, I want to help people.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So I'm going to just coach and I'm just going to stay right here.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. Not restricting our souls desire to do different things, to expand in different
ANNETTE:
Speaker:ways and to allow that connection to to be how we serve in this world.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I love that. And I feel I feel like allowing that space and saying this doesn't you know,
BRITTANY:
Speaker:just because you're going down this avenue right now doesn't mean you're confining
BRITTANY:
Speaker:yourself to a box.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Once you start getting really curious about all these different avenues, like there's so
BRITTANY:
Speaker:much more that opens up when you just allow yourself to explore instead of focusing on
BRITTANY:
Speaker:like a specific destination and a specific goal.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And maybe this goes back to embodiment.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:But but personally, you know, I'm of I'm a very feely person.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I can feel when something is wrong.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Right. I can feel in something is off.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I can feel and I've outgrown something.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And and I think it's really a disservice that a lot of a lot of us do to ourselves is
BRITTANY:
Speaker:stay somewhere past our expiration date because we are in this maybe masculine box of
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I need to prove something.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I need to provide here.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I need to be strong here.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I need to power through.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:So. Cool.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Super cool having so many light bulbs right now, I'm just I'm loving it.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Yeah, it's really it's really monumental.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:We allow ourselves to evolve, right?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Well, in life, I mean, the cons everyone is always says change is the number one
ANNETTE:
Speaker:constant. I really think polarity is the number one constant in their life.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:There's always death and rebirth.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. You know, there is always like I'm feeling great, but then there's fear.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:There's always these two sides because we are just contradicting ourselves all the
ANNETTE:
Speaker:time. And the more I've heard I don't know who said this quote, but it was like the
ANNETTE:
Speaker:world doesn't need more positive thinkers.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:It needs more people who understand polarity and understanding that there's going to be
ANNETTE:
Speaker:this separation, this dualism, as long as we're in this human form.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So I think allowing ourselves to to die.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right, to allow those parts of ourselves to wash away is crucial.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:So good. Is there anything else that you are feeling?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Called to share with us.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Right now.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I think for some, coming back to the body may feel like this daunting task and that
ANNETTE:
Speaker:there's. It may feel.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Overwhelming to come back home in this way, and I want to share that, yes, it could feel
ANNETTE:
Speaker:overwhelming and it could be overwhelming, but it's also so deeply beautiful.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And I think it is what we all deeply yearn for when we're out in the world trying to
ANNETTE:
Speaker:grab on to all these different things.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:It's that anxiety and that fear, it's our beings are just craving presence, it's
ANNETTE:
Speaker:craving that place to come back into this moment what's now rather than looking out
ANNETTE:
Speaker:into what will be and what was.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So I just wanted to share share that the the body is enough and the present moment is
ANNETTE:
Speaker:enough as well.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And this actually dropped through meditation for me the other day where I had this feeling
ANNETTE:
Speaker:of, well, what is the present moment isn't enough.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And then I was like, whoa, who said that?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Like, it was just like this. Like something just hit me over the top of the head.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And, you know, because everyone always says, like, everything that you're desiring is in
ANNETTE:
Speaker:this moment, within this moment.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And it could be overwhelming if you're in a place that's like you're not feeling that
ANNETTE:
Speaker:amazing. Right. Or you're not feeling connected or plugged in.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And for me, I was feeling this like armor around my body with a sense of protection.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And it was just that space of like, well, what how can this be enough?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And I open myself.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I have the ability to channel and to connect.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:So I just was asking and pondering this.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And what came through was just the present moment means that you have the ability to
ANNETTE:
Speaker:choose. Right?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:You have the ability to choose which direction you want to go into.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And I think that's when when we refer to the present moment, having all that we need and
ANNETTE:
Speaker:the now it really allows us.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:To choose a new reality, right, to choose that new frequency that we're desiring and as
ANNETTE:
Speaker:one to other than because sometimes when we hear like, you know, it's all available now,
ANNETTE:
Speaker:that's like very not grounded for someone that's like more tangible.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Right. So the ability to choose again can be found here and in your body.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I love that. And and I want to speak to this.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Not enough saying this is just been something that's popping up in my
BRITTANY:
Speaker:consciousness very often right now.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Is this really ingrained subconscious belief of not enough ness?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And and so what's coming to me right now is like we have this thought that the present
BRITTANY:
Speaker:moment isn't enough because we are still grappling with not enough ness in some way,
BRITTANY:
Speaker:shape or form. The present moment can't be enough when I'm sitting on the couch watching
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Netflix because I'm not enough in that moment.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I am not doing being enough in that moment.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:So, you know, I know that not enough ness is a core wound that we all struggle with and
BRITTANY:
Speaker:that we all battle with and and getting to a place where you just allow yourself to be.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Is this whole other.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Realm of freedom, but it never it never is a destination, you know, the present moment is
BRITTANY:
Speaker:it's it's gone now, right?
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And gone and now it's gone again.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And there's. I think what I'm trying to say is that we put so much emphasis on this end
BRITTANY:
Speaker:goal, we think we're just going to get there.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:We think we're just going to be enough.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:We think we're just going to one day have it all figured out.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:We think we're just going to have the perfect relationship.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:We're going to be eventually we're going to have that dollar number in the bank that
BRITTANY:
Speaker:makes us enough.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And and releasing that is a process and it's never done.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Hmm. But like you said, everything can exist in this in this polarity.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I can have this thought of not enough ness at the same time as I can have the thought
BRITTANY:
Speaker:of. I'm perfect just the way that I am right now.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And what a really cool experience that we get to be here in our skin bags and and
BRITTANY:
Speaker:playing and playing around with what it feels like to allow multiple parts of
BRITTANY:
Speaker:ourselves to exist at one time.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Yeah, because it's not just about there's so many different aspects to ourselves, right,
ANNETTE:
Speaker:and it's the more we can get to know, again, like that light side, the shadow side, the
ANNETTE:
Speaker:fear one, we can really feel it all as well.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:We can really get to know all aspects of us.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And it's like we're no longer hiding from ourselves because we know what we're like
ANNETTE:
Speaker:when we're super fear driven or X, Y and Z.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And it's. I think getting to know ourselves again and our humanness is a big part of our
ANNETTE:
Speaker:purpose as souls on this planet and then living out that mission's another layer to
ANNETTE:
Speaker:that. But, you know, we're so we're so multidimensional.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I love it,
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I love it all, if our listeners would like to connect with you, get to know more about you,
BRITTANY:
Speaker:maybe do a little shake and move in a shake with you.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Where's the best place to find you, Annette?
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Absolutely. So you can connect with me on Instagram at its start and that.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:I also have a Facebook community called the Shock the Rising Collective, where I support
ANNETTE:
Speaker:women in this way.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Um, I have a podcast myself called The Sacred Dance, where we explore all the
ANNETTE:
Speaker:polarities of our existence.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:We go into the shadow, we go into the light.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:You find the alchemy.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:And yeah, you can connect with me.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:They're super fun.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I'll be sure to link all of those up in the show notes.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Thank you so much for having this conversation with me.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:I am going to listen to this episode again when it comes out.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:So I can't wait to bring inner child into our house and do a little shake.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:And you've been fantastic.
BRITTANY:
Speaker:Thank you so much for being here tonight.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Thank you so, so much.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:It was really beautiful to talk with you, too.
ANNETTE:
Speaker:Thank you.
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